About the
Kind Mums
Born from our own journeys of resilience and rediscovery, KindMums is a safe space where mums can find the resources, support, and inspiration to embrace their unique paths with strength and compassion.
Our Objective
We Are Here to Empower Mums
KindMums.com was developed to provide a supportive hub for mothers, particularly working mums and first-time mums, to explore the practical benefits of mindfulness. Our mission is to help mothers reclaim their sense of agency, balance their roles, and foster mental well-being through accessible, relatable content and resources tailored to their needs.
Meet Aissa
“Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” — Christopher Robin.
My name is Aissa and I am a recovering overthinker, an expectant IVF mum, and mother to a wily toddler named Awan. I also work full time as a legal counsel of a property development firm, run a women empowerment NGO called Seek to Speak, and am currently pursuing a doctorate in business administration.
I started exploring mindfulness during the pandemic when I was going through challenging IVF treatments to conceive my firstborn, Awan. Much like the rest of the world, I felt very isolated with my struggles. There was a lot of shame surrounding my inability to conceive, and I had a lot of resentment towards others who I thought couldn’t even begin to fathom what I was going through. I kept ruminating about the “unfairness” of it all, and felt completely overwhelmed by the emotional turmoil that came with multiple hormone injections and the uncertainty of the odds. I stumbled upon mindfulness while binging on Netflix because Headspace, a well-known mindfulness platform, released a limited series about meditation and its benefits. I found myself doing their short practices daily, and became part of my self-care routine. The daily practice helped steady me during this difficult time.
Fast forward to when Awan was born, I started suffering from postpartum blues. I loved Awan so much and also appreciated being a mother but the change was so radical that I felt like I lost myself in the transition. My baby represented this great ball of need that I had to tend to at every second of the day. With limited sleep and contact with others, I felt even more isolated with my struggles, often feeling like I was trapped in this life where I only existed to serve my baby, and that my needs were unimportant in comparison.
Despite being fully supported by my family, I couldn’t shake off this feeling of bitterness that came with all the “sacrifices” I was making which in turn, triggered mom guilt to epic proportions, which in turn, triggered a whole host of other anxieties about the future and my ability to function as a normal adult. When I started working again, the feelings of loss and uncertainty didn’t dissipate, replaced with this new panic about failing at both motherhood and my career, often feeling like I fell short of everyone around me. Despite talking to a professional about my difficulty, I felt like I was missing something I could do on my own to help regulate my emotions. I wanted to feel autonomy and control again, like my life was still my own, and that I had the capacity to resource myself independently when things get hard.
This was when I turned back to mindfulness after my NGO ran a workshop on mental resilience, and the trainer for the session happened to be a mindfulness teacher trained with the Oxford Mindfulness Foundation (OMF). I immediately enrolled in OMF’s Mindfulness for Life course (MBCT-L) facilitated by the same trainer and found the journey to be transformative. Despite the initial struggle to find time every day to meditate and reflect, I found myself developing newfound skills that allowed me to be more compassionate and non-judgmental about my life. It was harder to keep feeling guilty and sorry about myself when I also practiced gratitude and kindness! I started developing techniques to ground myself to the present moment when my anxieties start catastrophizing or when my to-do-list seemed endless. I was also able to notice my warning signs of reactivity when I was feeling less resourced, allowing me to take immediate actions to care for my mental health.
Ultimately, I felt like myself again. I could be present with my daughter without ruminating about all the difficulties of trying to raise her and the uncertain future ahead of us. I was productive at work again, without being constantly distracted by my worries and anxieties stemming from insecurities I had about my abilities, post-partum. My relationship with my husband and parents improved when I started paying attention to how they were trying to help, knowing that I was never truly alone, and that I was only previously projecting my fears.
Since then, I have gone on to take teacher training courses with the OMF and the Mindfulness in Schools Project to learn how to teach others mindfulness so that everyone can feel the transformative effects of such a simple, yet powerful, mental health tool. For moms especially, with our limited time and capacity for anything else, we need something quick, accessible, and sustainable to help get us through our everyday challenges, which, let me tell you, always seem insurmountable! That was how KindMums was born - a resource hub for mums to lean on when the going gets tough.
I started exploring mindfulness during the pandemic when I was going through challenging IVF treatments to conceive my firstborn, Awan. Much like the rest of the world, I felt very isolated with my struggles. There was a lot of shame surrounding my inability to conceive, and I had a lot of resentment towards others who I thought couldn’t even begin to fathom what I was going through. I kept ruminating about the “unfairness” of it all, and felt completely overwhelmed by the emotional turmoil that came with multiple hormone injections and the uncertainty of the odds. I stumbled upon mindfulness while binging on Netflix because Headspace, a well-known mindfulness platform, released a limited series about meditation and its benefits. I found myself doing their short practices daily, and became part of my self-care routine. The daily practice helped steady me during this difficult time.
Fast forward to when Awan was born, I started suffering from postpartum blues. I loved Awan so much and also appreciated being a mother but the change was so radical that I felt like I lost myself in the transition. My baby represented this great ball of need that I had to tend to at every second of the day. With limited sleep and contact with others, I felt even more isolated with my struggles, often feeling like I was trapped in this life where I only existed to serve my baby, and that my needs were unimportant in comparison.
Despite being fully supported by my family, I couldn’t shake off this feeling of bitterness that came with all the “sacrifices” I was making which in turn, triggered mom guilt to epic proportions, which in turn, triggered a whole host of other anxieties about the future and my ability to function as a normal adult. When I started working again, the feelings of loss and uncertainty didn’t dissipate, replaced with this new panic about failing at both motherhood and my career, often feeling like I fell short of everyone around me. Despite talking to a professional about my difficulty, I felt like I was missing something I could do on my own to help regulate my emotions. I wanted to feel autonomy and control again, like my life was still my own, and that I had the capacity to resource myself independently when things get hard.
This was when I turned back to mindfulness after my NGO ran a workshop on mental resilience, and the trainer for the session happened to be a mindfulness teacher trained with the Oxford Mindfulness Foundation (OMF). I immediately enrolled in OMF’s Mindfulness for Life course (MBCT-L) facilitated by the same trainer and found the journey to be transformative. Despite the initial struggle to find time every day to meditate and reflect, I found myself developing newfound skills that allowed me to be more compassionate and non-judgmental about my life. It was harder to keep feeling guilty and sorry about myself when I also practiced gratitude and kindness! I started developing techniques to ground myself to the present moment when my anxieties start catastrophizing or when my to-do-list seemed endless. I was also able to notice my warning signs of reactivity when I was feeling less resourced, allowing me to take immediate actions to care for my mental health.
Ultimately, I felt like myself again. I could be present with my daughter without ruminating about all the difficulties of trying to raise her and the uncertain future ahead of us. I was productive at work again, without being constantly distracted by my worries and anxieties stemming from insecurities I had about my abilities, post-partum. My relationship with my husband and parents improved when I started paying attention to how they were trying to help, knowing that I was never truly alone, and that I was only previously projecting my fears.
Since then, I have gone on to take teacher training courses with the OMF and the Mindfulness in Schools Project to learn how to teach others mindfulness so that everyone can feel the transformative effects of such a simple, yet powerful, mental health tool. For moms especially, with our limited time and capacity for anything else, we need something quick, accessible, and sustainable to help get us through our everyday challenges, which, let me tell you, always seem insurmountable! That was how KindMums was born - a resource hub for mums to lean on when the going gets tough.
Meet Maslin
“Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” — Christopher Robin.
Even though I've never had the privilege of creating people of my own, I am a proud cat mom of 15 feline monsters - who have decided to take it up upon themselves, the grave responsibility to constantly remind me of the joys and challenges of animal caregiving. I think I can speak on behalf of all furparents out there, when I say that there is no rollercoaster so wild as the anxiety and stress our furkids put us through!
That said, it was not my furmonsters but the stress at work that drew me to mindfulness. Like so many other people in the world, the Covid-19 outbreak forced me to go through many major changes in my life. The big kahuna? Transitioning from a career in creative media into corporate marketing. Self doubt, insecurity, second guessing, paranoia - you name the complex, I got it! The changes were both uncomfortable and humbling but I learnt so much. Looking back, I am both grateful and amazed at the opportunity given.
Still, going through it wasn't easy and even now, l am left with lingering anxiety that hangs over my head daily. That's why this project is something I hold very close to my heart. Mindfulness is still largely misunderstood but it was this exact practice that enabled me to escape from living in the dark confines of my over anxious mind where I was both powerless and in despair. The stresses of work still present themselves daily (no escaping that, amiright?) but I'm now better armed to navigate myself out of a difficult situation.
So, together with Aissa - who has been a mindfulness champion since her first child - we put our heads together and asked: what can we do with what we know how to do best, to help other people like us? Or more importantly, how do we share the many benefits of mindfulness to the very people who need it the most? And that is how kindmums was born.
We want to create a safe space especially for moms (we love moms!). We want them to know that they are not alone and help them recover their agency. It is through mindfulness that we hope to empower them.
Tangentially, in my many, many years of working, I have met so people with brilliant ideas that inevitably succumbed to the “failure to launch” disease. So, alongside kindmums, I am documenting every single idea, meeting, failure, laughter, tears and ahem, fights that we might have with the ultimate goal of compiling these insights into a playbook - to help others overcome the barriers in starting something meaningful.
Can't wait to share!
That said, it was not my furmonsters but the stress at work that drew me to mindfulness. Like so many other people in the world, the Covid-19 outbreak forced me to go through many major changes in my life. The big kahuna? Transitioning from a career in creative media into corporate marketing. Self doubt, insecurity, second guessing, paranoia - you name the complex, I got it! The changes were both uncomfortable and humbling but I learnt so much. Looking back, I am both grateful and amazed at the opportunity given.
Still, going through it wasn't easy and even now, l am left with lingering anxiety that hangs over my head daily. That's why this project is something I hold very close to my heart. Mindfulness is still largely misunderstood but it was this exact practice that enabled me to escape from living in the dark confines of my over anxious mind where I was both powerless and in despair. The stresses of work still present themselves daily (no escaping that, amiright?) but I'm now better armed to navigate myself out of a difficult situation.
So, together with Aissa - who has been a mindfulness champion since her first child - we put our heads together and asked: what can we do with what we know how to do best, to help other people like us? Or more importantly, how do we share the many benefits of mindfulness to the very people who need it the most? And that is how kindmums was born.
We want to create a safe space especially for moms (we love moms!). We want them to know that they are not alone and help them recover their agency. It is through mindfulness that we hope to empower them.
Tangentially, in my many, many years of working, I have met so people with brilliant ideas that inevitably succumbed to the “failure to launch” disease. So, alongside kindmums, I am documenting every single idea, meeting, failure, laughter, tears and ahem, fights that we might have with the ultimate goal of compiling these insights into a playbook - to help others overcome the barriers in starting something meaningful.
Can't wait to share!
